3 Steps to Freedom of the Heart
What would a girl and her cat do when love has passed us by? We would find a way to move on, a way to recover and a way to accept. Sometimes the worst part of breaking up is learning to accept that some things are out of your control. Whether you’re making up with your ex so you can be friends or because you want to give it another try, there are three important steps you must take, to give your heart the freedom it needs to grow.
- Squelch the Angry Fire: Even if you think you’re over it and you have recovered from the hurt, anger has a way of sneaking back in at the most inopportune time. Anger is the easiest emotion to express because it gives us a feeling of strength and power. Be warned, it’s usually just a mask for a deeper feeling of sadness, hurt, rejection or fear. Look past the anger and acknowledge how you’re really feeling, so you can put the anger behind you.
- Accept the Truth: What’s done is done. Accept it. Maybe your partner was unfaithful. Maybe you were. You must accept what has happened or you won’t be able to properly recover. Once you’ve accepted it, decide whether or not you can forgive it. Love is a choice. So is forgiveness. If you really want to get past the painful parts, but can’t seem to figure out how, then look into seeing a counsellor. Grief is about loss, not about death. If you plan to make up with your partner, you need to make sure you are doing so with eyes wide open.
- Stop and Remember the Roses: It’s easy to get caught up in a game of he said/she said. You know all the imperfections, shortcomings and flaws and you can make digs and comments at your discretion. But in order to free your heart of past baggage, you must remember there were good times too. Stop and remember what drew you to this person in the first place. The fun times; the quiet moments; the romance. Don’t say there weren’t any, because you never would have made it past the first date if there wasn’t something good there.
Making up with an old flame after a break up won’t work unless you free yourself of the pain and hurt that caused the break up in the first place. Without taking a good look at yourself and your ex, you will only repeat the patterns of the past. Don’t hold grudges. Accept apologies. Don’t keep a list of past wrongs to bring up in future arguments. Free your heart to experience a new relationship, even if it’s with your old flame. Take it from a girl and her cat, freedom of the heart is freedom to love.
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January 9, 2012 5:54 am
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